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Tree Lady

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44. Hubby and I aren't with family this year

Mon Nov 24, 2025, 11:52 PM

7 hrs ago

So driving to Oregon coast tomorrow and staying with dog at ocean view hotel. Have reservations down the street for dinner Thursday. Looking forward to it. Sitting by the fire at hotel bar reading my book, so much better than trying to figure out what to say to family.

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NEW GOLDEN ERA! Thanksgiving hosts weigh the ethics of CHARGING THEIR GUESTS FOR DINNER. [View all] Miles Archer 17 hrs ago OP

I think it's a good idea myself. Kingofalldems 17 hrs ago #1

+1 leftstreet 17 hrs ago #5

This message was self-deleted by its author Just_Vote_Dem 17 hrs ago #10

. dalton99a 17 hrs ago #2

$9.20 for 10 russet potatoes? Yikes! Diamond_Dog 17 hrs ago #7

My store has an 8 # bag of russets for 3.99 with a loyalty card. Some niyad 17 hrs ago #11

Prices vary a lot throughout the country (n/t) Retrograde 9 hrs ago #42

Having lived all over the country, I am, unsurprisingly, well aware of that. niyad 8 hrs ago #43

Who's paying $21 for a 10 lb frozen turkey? Prairie Gates 17 hrs ago #15

"Pass the hat for our gracious hosts and cooks!" bucolic_frolic 17 hrs ago #3

Or just have a potluck. Dulcinea 17 hrs ago #4

I always cook the turkey, the taters, the turnips, the rolls, and one dessert. Scrivener7 17 hrs ago #16

Cluelessly rude is putting it mildly. 3catwoman3 16 hrs ago #31

It was so weird and shocking, I didn't really know how to react in the moment. Scrivener7 16 hrs ago #32

We always provide the pies Wednesdays 17 hrs ago #21

Exactly! N/t TexasBushwhacker 16 hrs ago #33

yes, yes, yes.... markie 16 hrs ago #35

I have no problem asking people to bring a dish, or wine or whatever. rsdsharp 17 hrs ago #6

AYFKM??? Invite my friends, or be invited, and then tell/be told, "fork over"??? niyad 17 hrs ago #8

Potluck works. Many hands makes light work. SheltieLover 17 hrs ago #13

Or everyone go to a restaurant. Then each pays their share. Wednesdays 17 hrs ago #24

An excellent idea. One year, friends and I went to a T-Day buffet. It was niyad 17 hrs ago #26

Hubby and I aren't with family this year Tree Lady 7 hrs ago #44

100% nothing wrong with that, my sister has done that for a few years obamanut2012 17 hrs ago #9

In lean years, we've done a potluck. Everyone pitch in and bring something to share. Greybnk48 17 hrs ago #12

Charging your guest is a shitty thing to do. Omnipresent 17 hrs ago #14

Your words are true. chouchou 17 hrs ago #19

If they are being charged, they are customers, not guests. niyad 17 hrs ago #22

Exactly! Omnipresent 16 hrs ago #30

I'd die in my chair if my husband wanted to charge for Thanksgiving dinner. chouchou 17 hrs ago #17

Thankfully, this will be our 32nd year of rejecting Thanksgiving. And, 35 years of booting XMAS. RedWhiteBlueIsRacist 17 hrs ago #18

AMERICA IS GREAT AGAIN Blue Owl 17 hrs ago #20

ok ok ok ...i've got a plan!!! ret5hd 17 hrs ago #23

Brilliant!!! niyad 16 hrs ago #28

Now, why am I thinking of Trump boasting about affordability? Norrrm 17 hrs ago #25

I would think that asking guests to bring a dish would WhiteTara 17 hrs ago #27

Dear Nattering Nabobs of Negativism. Things have never been better. Just compare. usonian 16 hrs ago #29

That is rude, rude, rude. mwmisses4289 16 hrs ago #34

I read about this for wedding receptions too! forthemiddle 16 hrs ago #36

A belated HAPPY 24th DUnniversary to you! niyad 13 hrs ago #38

It IS tacky. If you cannot afford a big wedding dinner, don't do it. niyad 13 hrs ago #41

We did ours for $1200 total. SomewhereInTheMiddle 6 min ago #45

I prefer the old and tried method of cooking a few of the main dishes, and then have everyone bring their special dishes SWBTATTReg 13 hrs ago #37

How absolutely cool is that!!! niyad 13 hrs ago #39

I don't invite people over for events and then charge them. BlueTsunami2018 13 hrs ago #40