NEW GOLDEN ERA! Thanksgiving hosts weigh the ethics of CHARGING THEIR GUESTS FOR DINNER.

[Miles Archer]

Trump likes to claim Thanksgiving costs are down this year, but some holiday hosts are considering extraordinary measures to keep their meals under budget.

The president has claimed costs for this year's meal are down 25 percent, citing a misleadingly priced Thanksgiving meal basket listed online by Walmart, but the Washington Post reported on social media debates over the ethics of charging guests for their dinner.

"Nothing says happy holidays like a cover charge," the newspaper reported.

"With Thanksgiving here soon, you may have noticed online postings by would-be hosts asking whether it is okay to charge guests for their roast turkey and cranberry sauce" the report continued. "But it is part of a larger trend of people billing guests for food and drink that, depending on your point of view, is either a major breach of etiquette or simply pragmatic."

https://www.rawstory.com/cost-of-thanksgiving-trump/

[Kingofalldems]

1. I think it's a good idea myself.

[leftstreet]

5. +1

Straightforward and honest.

Not many people can handle the burden of funding an entire meal. And it also solves the problem of the disappearing "potluck"

[dalton99a]

2. .

[Diamond_Dog]

7. $9.20 for 10 russet potatoes? Yikes!

[niyad]

11. My store has an 8 # bag of russets for 3.99 with a loyalty card. Some

of those prices were weird. . and the increases falsely low.

[Prairie Gates]

15. Who's paying $21 for a 10 lb frozen turkey?

First of all, who can even find a 10 lb frozen turkey? Second of all, frozen turkeys are usually on steep discount, and I mean in .99 or less per pound. Fresh turkey, yes, fine, those will run you $2 - $4 per pound depending on provider (excluding more lux varieties), but a frozen turkey? You can get a 14 pound frozen turkey for .60 a pound. It's cheaper than a 4 pound chicken roaster.

[bucolic_frolic]

3. "Pass the hat for our gracious hosts and cooks!"

[Dulcinea]

4. Or just have a potluck.

When I'm invited to a friend's house for dinner, I always ask what I can bring. That's just good manners.

[Scrivener7]

16. I always cook the turkey, the taters, the turnips, the rolls, and one dessert.

Guests each bring a dish.

It works great.

But I was recently invited to a party, accepted the invitation, and then two weeks later was informed by the "hosts" that another guest and I (family members) were expected to bring the entire dinner. I was kind of speechless, and didn't fight it (though that won't happen again). We decided we would get trays from a restaurant, as this party was taking place an hour and a half from our home. The "hosts" then nixed that and insisted we go to the restaurant THEY chose, which added an hour to the trip. They said they were cleaning and providing the house, so we should do the rest.

If it had been discussed at the beginning that we were all going to contribute, that would have been one thing, but I was absolutely floored by how cluelessly rude that whole thing was. At the time I was too shocked to say, "Screw that, I'm busy that day" but I will the next time.

[3catwoman3]

31. Cluelessly rude is putting it mildly.

Sheesh - I'd have been pissed the whole time I was there.

[Scrivener7]

32. It was so weird and shocking, I didn't really know how to react in the moment.

Next time, I'll just say, "That doesn't work for me."

Families, man. Never easy.

[Wednesdays]

21. We always provide the pies

We're expecting 14-15 guests at my sister's this year. She always makes the turkey, other guests bring the sides and drinks, and we supply dessert. Likely 7 pies of various types.

[TexasBushwhacker]

33. Exactly! N/t

[markie]

35. yes, yes, yes....

bring back the potluck.... awful idea to charge those who dine at your Thanksgiving table

just ask people to contribute food if they are able

[rsdsharp]

6. I have no problem asking people to bring a dish, or wine or whatever.

But I’m not going to charge my guests.

[niyad]

8. AYFKM??? Invite my friends, or be invited, and then tell/be told, "fork over"???

Can we say CRASS, RUDE, OBNOXIOUS?? If one cannot afford a large spread, then don't. Either scale it back or forego it. Or do what my friends and I do. . .a potluck. The one hosting does the main item, everyone else covers everything else. Nobody is stressed about money, time, energy, etc., and a good time is had by all.

[SheltieLover]

13. Potluck works. Many hands makes light work.

[Wednesdays]

24. Or everyone go to a restaurant. Then each pays their share.

And no one has to worry about cooking, hosting, getting the house/apartment ready, etc., nor clean-up afterward.

Buffets are very popular at Thanksgiving.

[niyad]

26. An excellent idea. One year, friends and I went to a T-Day buffet. It was

wonderful. Had a gorgeous view of the Bay, the food was excellent, nobody in my party was stressed (pretty sure that was NOT thhe case for the staff, who, I hope, were well-compensated!), and NO cleanup.

[obamanut2012]

9. 100% nothing wrong with that, my sister has done that for a few years

She says what she's making, which is always the turkey, major sides, cheese board, etc. Everyone says what they are bringing (drinks, desserts, etc.), and give a set price of money to my sister so she can get everything at Costco, Trader Joe's, etc.

Works well.

[Greybnk48]

12. In lean years, we've done a potluck. Everyone pitch in and bring something to share.

Non-cooks would bring things like snacks, rolls or drinks. People who cook bring assigned sides (or things they love to prepare or family favs).

Some people still bring pies, and sides, even though we don't need help financially. I just need help because I'm old (77)!

[Omnipresent]

14. Charging your guest is a shitty thing to do.

[chouchou]

19. Your words are true.

[niyad]

22. If they are being charged, they are customers, not guests.

[Omnipresent]

30. Exactly!

[chouchou]

17. I'd die in my chair if my husband wanted to charge for Thanksgiving dinner.

I take that back...His ass would be eating with the dog...in the doghouse.

[RedWhiteBlueIsRacist]

18. Thankfully, this will be our 32nd year of rejecting Thanksgiving. And, 35 years of booting XMAS.

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Have no prob with News Year's Day!

[Blue Owl]

20. AMERICA IS GREAT AGAIN

[ret5hd]

23. ok ok ok ...i've got a plan!!!

INVITATION:
date, time, etc

Seating Fees:
Premium (lazy-boy) - $40 (1 available)
Regular (couch) - $15 (4 available)
Economy (lawn chair in the garage) $5 (unlimited)

Viewing Fees:
Widescreen HDTV: $20
Portable B&W: $5

Corkage Fee: $10

etc etc etc…

i’m pretty sure NOBODY comes, so problem solved!!!

[niyad]

28. Brilliant!!!

[Norrrm]

25. Now, why am I thinking of Trump boasting about affordability?

Not necessarily with positive thoughts.

[WhiteTara]

27. I would think that asking guests to bring a dish would

be far preferable than asking for money.

[usonian]

29. Dear Nattering Nabobs of Negativism. Things have never been better. Just compare.

[mwmisses4289]

34. That is rude, rude, rude.

You invited them over to eat. It's up to you, as the host, to provide the meal.
Or as others have suggested, do a potluck where everyone brings a dish or two. Host/ess provides main, a side and a dessert; guests bring more sides, desserts, and drinks.
But charging your guests? Absolutely not!!

[forthemiddle]

36. I read about this for wedding receptions too!

This goes back a couple of years. I read about couples selling tickets for their wedding dinner.
It sounds tacky to me, but maybe this is how the younger generations will do things in the future.
Heck, even dating is Dutch treat more often than not.

[niyad]

38. A belated HAPPY 24th DUnniversary to you!

[niyad]

41. It IS tacky. If you cannot afford a big wedding dinner, don't do it.

Same with the rest of the insanely expensive wedding production. Especially when one considers that some 50% of first marriages fail fairly quickly. I have always thought that there were far better uses for all that cash. The cynic in me, I know. And the whole wedding industry does keep a fair number of peeople gainfully employed.

Yes, I know people need occasions and all that. But we are sold a bill of goods about weddings and marriage, despite all the depressing statistics. And yes, I know ther are many good, happy, long-term marriages. Our DU members are proof of that. But, as the old saying goes, "A woman who wants prince charming needs to remember she will be cleaning up after his horse." Yes, I am that cynical.

[SWBTATTReg]

37. I prefer the old and tried method of cooking a few of the main dishes, and then have everyone bring their special dishes

they are famous for, or bring a dish. When you get all of us together bringing a mess of stuff, it's amazing and wonderful to see what everybody brings in. We do this every year at the local bar that all of us hang out at, every thanksgiving, for those of us that don't travel, that don't have family close by, etc. And it's wonderful!

Happy Thanksgiving All.

[niyad]

39. How absolutely cool is that!!!

[BlueTsunami2018]

40. I don't invite people over for events and then charge them.

It seems tacky. Violating the spirit of hospitality.

I wouldn’t feel right doing that.