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mwmisses4289

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34. That is rude, rude, rude.

Mon Nov 24, 2025, 03:11 PM

5 hrs ago

You invited them over to eat. It's up to you, as the host, to provide the meal.
Or as others have suggested, do a potluck where everyone brings a dish or two. Host/ess provides main, a side and a dessert; guests bring more sides, desserts, and drinks.
But charging your guests? Absolutely not!!

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NEW GOLDEN ERA! Thanksgiving hosts weigh the ethics of CHARGING THEIR GUESTS FOR DINNER. [View all] Miles Archer 6 hrs ago OP

I think it's a good idea myself. Kingofalldems 6 hrs ago #1

+1 leftstreet 6 hrs ago #5

This message was self-deleted by its author Just_Vote_Dem 6 hrs ago #10

. dalton99a 6 hrs ago #2

$9.20 for 10 russet potatoes? Yikes! Diamond_Dog 6 hrs ago #7

My store has an 8 # bag of russets for 3.99 with a loyalty card. Some niyad 6 hrs ago #11

Who's paying $21 for a 10 lb frozen turkey? Prairie Gates 6 hrs ago #15

"Pass the hat for our gracious hosts and cooks!" bucolic_frolic 6 hrs ago #3

Or just have a potluck. Dulcinea 6 hrs ago #4

I always cook the turkey, the taters, the turnips, the rolls, and one dessert. Scrivener7 6 hrs ago #16

Cluelessly rude is putting it mildly. 3catwoman3 5 hrs ago #31

It was so weird and shocking, I didn't really know how to react in the moment. Scrivener7 5 hrs ago #32

We always provide the pies Wednesdays 6 hrs ago #21

Exactly! N/t TexasBushwhacker 5 hrs ago #33

yes, yes, yes.... markie 5 hrs ago #35

I have no problem asking people to bring a dish, or wine or whatever. rsdsharp 6 hrs ago #6

AYFKM??? Invite my friends, or be invited, and then tell/be told, "fork over"??? niyad 6 hrs ago #8

Potluck works. Many hands makes light work. SheltieLover 6 hrs ago #13

Or everyone go to a restaurant. Then each pays their share. Wednesdays 6 hrs ago #24

An excellent idea. One year, friends and I went to a T-Day buffet. It was niyad 6 hrs ago #26

100% nothing wrong with that, my sister has done that for a few years obamanut2012 6 hrs ago #9

In lean years, we've done a potluck. Everyone pitch in and bring something to share. Greybnk48 6 hrs ago #12

Charging your guest is a shitty thing to do. Omnipresent 6 hrs ago #14

Your words are true. chouchou 6 hrs ago #19

If they are being charged, they are customers, not guests. niyad 6 hrs ago #22

Exactly! Omnipresent 5 hrs ago #30

I'd die in my chair if my husband wanted to charge for Thanksgiving dinner. chouchou 6 hrs ago #17

Thankfully, this will be our 32nd year of rejecting Thanksgiving. And, 35 years of booting XMAS. RedWhiteBlueIsRacist 6 hrs ago #18

AMERICA IS GREAT AGAIN Blue Owl 6 hrs ago #20

ok ok ok ...i've got a plan!!! ret5hd 6 hrs ago #23

Brilliant!!! niyad 6 hrs ago #28

Now, why am I thinking of Trump boasting about affordability? Norrrm 6 hrs ago #25

I would think that asking guests to bring a dish would WhiteTara 6 hrs ago #27

Dear Nattering Nabobs of Negativism. Things have never been better. Just compare. usonian 5 hrs ago #29

That is rude, rude, rude. mwmisses4289 5 hrs ago #34

I read about this for wedding receptions too! forthemiddle 5 hrs ago #36

A belated HAPPY 24th DUnniversary to you! niyad 2 hrs ago #38

It IS tacky. If you cannot afford a big wedding dinner, don't do it. niyad 2 hrs ago #41

I prefer the old and tried method of cooking a few of the main dishes, and then have everyone bring their special dishes SWBTATTReg 3 hrs ago #37

How absolutely cool is that!!! niyad 2 hrs ago #39

I don't invite people over for events and then charge them. BlueTsunami2018 2 hrs ago #40