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21. We always provide the pies

Mon Nov 24, 2025, 02:15 PM

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We're expecting 14-15 guests at my sister's this year. She always makes the turkey, other guests bring the sides and drinks, and we supply dessert. Likely 7 pies of various types.

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NEW GOLDEN ERA! Thanksgiving hosts weigh the ethics of CHARGING THEIR GUESTS FOR DINNER. [View all] Miles Archer 11 hrs ago OP

I think it's a good idea myself. Kingofalldems 11 hrs ago #1

+1 leftstreet 11 hrs ago #5

This message was self-deleted by its author Just_Vote_Dem 11 hrs ago #10

. dalton99a 11 hrs ago #2

$9.20 for 10 russet potatoes? Yikes! Diamond_Dog 11 hrs ago #7

My store has an 8 # bag of russets for 3.99 with a loyalty card. Some niyad 11 hrs ago #11

Prices vary a lot throughout the country (n/t) Retrograde 3 hrs ago #42

Having lived all over the country, I am, unsurprisingly, well aware of that. niyad 2 hrs ago #43

Who's paying $21 for a 10 lb frozen turkey? Prairie Gates 10 hrs ago #15

"Pass the hat for our gracious hosts and cooks!" bucolic_frolic 11 hrs ago #3

Or just have a potluck. Dulcinea 11 hrs ago #4

I always cook the turkey, the taters, the turnips, the rolls, and one dessert. Scrivener7 10 hrs ago #16

Cluelessly rude is putting it mildly. 3catwoman3 10 hrs ago #31

It was so weird and shocking, I didn't really know how to react in the moment. Scrivener7 10 hrs ago #32

We always provide the pies Wednesdays 10 hrs ago #21

Exactly! N/t TexasBushwhacker 10 hrs ago #33

yes, yes, yes.... markie 9 hrs ago #35

I have no problem asking people to bring a dish, or wine or whatever. rsdsharp 11 hrs ago #6

AYFKM??? Invite my friends, or be invited, and then tell/be told, "fork over"??? niyad 11 hrs ago #8

Potluck works. Many hands makes light work. SheltieLover 10 hrs ago #13

Or everyone go to a restaurant. Then each pays their share. Wednesdays 10 hrs ago #24

An excellent idea. One year, friends and I went to a T-Day buffet. It was niyad 10 hrs ago #26

Hubby and I aren't with family this year Tree Lady 1 hr ago #44

100% nothing wrong with that, my sister has done that for a few years obamanut2012 11 hrs ago #9

In lean years, we've done a potluck. Everyone pitch in and bring something to share. Greybnk48 10 hrs ago #12

Charging your guest is a shitty thing to do. Omnipresent 10 hrs ago #14

Your words are true. chouchou 10 hrs ago #19

If they are being charged, they are customers, not guests. niyad 10 hrs ago #22

Exactly! Omnipresent 10 hrs ago #30

I'd die in my chair if my husband wanted to charge for Thanksgiving dinner. chouchou 10 hrs ago #17

Thankfully, this will be our 32nd year of rejecting Thanksgiving. And, 35 years of booting XMAS. RedWhiteBlueIsRacist 10 hrs ago #18

AMERICA IS GREAT AGAIN Blue Owl 10 hrs ago #20

ok ok ok ...i've got a plan!!! ret5hd 10 hrs ago #23

Brilliant!!! niyad 10 hrs ago #28

Now, why am I thinking of Trump boasting about affordability? Norrrm 10 hrs ago #25

I would think that asking guests to bring a dish would WhiteTara 10 hrs ago #27

Dear Nattering Nabobs of Negativism. Things have never been better. Just compare. usonian 10 hrs ago #29

That is rude, rude, rude. mwmisses4289 9 hrs ago #34

I read about this for wedding receptions too! forthemiddle 9 hrs ago #36

A belated HAPPY 24th DUnniversary to you! niyad 7 hrs ago #38

It IS tacky. If you cannot afford a big wedding dinner, don't do it. niyad 6 hrs ago #41

I prefer the old and tried method of cooking a few of the main dishes, and then have everyone bring their special dishes SWBTATTReg 7 hrs ago #37

How absolutely cool is that!!! niyad 7 hrs ago #39

I don't invite people over for events and then charge them. BlueTsunami2018 7 hrs ago #40