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Elder-caregivers

Aerows

(39,961 posts) Fri Oct 3, 2014, 09:43 PM Oct 2014

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I don't know what to do. My parents are 86 and 82 respectively and seem to think they are 40. The only 40 year old around is me. Unloading trucks, doing things that I'm really not capable of doing. I've lost 20 lbs. that I didn't have to lose, and my blood pressure was scary when I went to the doctor the other day.

I nearly broke my finger because my father, directing the "help" (me) waiving his cane wanted my 82 year old mother to cart some crap out of the back of the truck. Needless to say, I took over (at a moment's notice, mind you) and damn near broke my finger to get my mother out of the back of the truck.

I'm pissed, and expressed being pissed, then I am accused of being a piece of shit. Their words.

I'm going to have a stroke.

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Help [View all] Aerows Oct 2014 OP

Over a period of years, I had to hire part time and then full time live-in help. NYC_SKP Oct 2014 #1

I've been called every name in the book Aerows Oct 2014 #3

Start with boundaries. Hell Hath No Fury Oct 2014 #2

I'm not capable of a bunch of manual labor Aerows Oct 2014 #4

I completely understand. Hell Hath No Fury Oct 2014 #5

I've done the best I can Aerows Oct 2014 #6

There's a tendency for us to feel guilty, after years of wanting to be a good child, NYC_SKP Oct 2014 #7

I've always stepped up Aerows Oct 2014 #8

Getting screamed at and told Aerows Oct 2014 #9

Going it alone is triple hard. Thankfully, I have a local God sister. NYC_SKP Oct 2014 #11

I'm having a rough time Aerows Oct 2014 #12

I'm okay with going up on ladders Aerows Oct 2014 #10

How is it going, Aerows? Habibi Oct 2014 #13

Better, I guess Aerows Oct 2014 #14

Well, as someone on the other thread pointed out, Habibi Oct 2014 #15

I used the word NO. Aerows Oct 2014 #17

I effectively used the word "NO" Aerows Oct 2014 #16

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