Elder-caregivers

Freddie

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7. Sounds like they might be better in assisted living f

Fri Feb 9, 2018, 06:25 PM

Feb 2018

Than a house in a retirement community. I had to persuade my parents and it was horrible with my dad. Mom needed more care than he could give at 87, he'd had a couple fenderbenders, they tried 24/7 home care which was horrifically expensive and some of the aides were less than stellar. We found a nice place and Mom was happy there (and got the care she needed) and I think Dad was mad at me until he died 5 years later. Not mad at my brother, of course.
Sometimes it takes a health crisis to make the point that they can't do it themselves anymore. Then you have no choice of facilities and are forced to make quick decisions. Tell them you don't want that to happen.

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how to deal with a defiant elderly parent... [View all] samnsara Feb 2018 OP

My guess is your dad doesn't like feeling Phoenix61 Feb 2018 #1

they are 90 miles from me and 45 from my other sis. NOW my mom may samnsara Mar 2018 #9

I went through something like this when both my parents were in their late 80's. enough Feb 2018 #2

This is a tough situation. It makes me glad my mom lost her house and HAD to move rainin Feb 2018 #3

Had to do it to my mother-in-law packman Feb 2018 #4

I had to do that with my mom. KatyaR Feb 2018 #5

thank you.. I sure hope so samnsara Mar 2018 #10

I keep on hearing similar stories like all of those in this thread. PoindexterOglethorpe Feb 2018 #6

Sounds like they might be better in assisted living f Freddie Feb 2018 #7

im thinking a health crisis will have to happen...which may be sooner than later... samnsara Mar 2018 #11

Please consider your husband, obviously a good guy, and do what is best for him and for you, No Vested Interest Feb 2018 #8