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Elder-caregivers

Phoenix61

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1. My guess is your dad doesn't like feeling

Reply to samnsara (Original post)

Fri Feb 9, 2018, 05:26 PM

Feb 2018

dependent. A lot of times, old folks get by in their own home out of memory. When they move some place new they can get very confused and disoriented. That being said, I'm sure there were times they made decisions for you that were in your best interest that you didn't like. They aren't able to care for themselves and you caring for them would be so much easier if they were closer. Maybe try to bribe your dad? More outings, etc if they are closer.

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how to deal with a defiant elderly parent... [View all] samnsara Feb 2018 OP

My guess is your dad doesn't like feeling Phoenix61 Feb 2018 #1

they are 90 miles from me and 45 from my other sis. NOW my mom may samnsara Mar 2018 #9

I went through something like this when both my parents were in their late 80's. enough Feb 2018 #2

This is a tough situation. It makes me glad my mom lost her house and HAD to move rainin Feb 2018 #3

Had to do it to my mother-in-law packman Feb 2018 #4

I had to do that with my mom. KatyaR Feb 2018 #5

thank you.. I sure hope so samnsara Mar 2018 #10

I keep on hearing similar stories like all of those in this thread. PoindexterOglethorpe Feb 2018 #6

Sounds like they might be better in assisted living f Freddie Feb 2018 #7

im thinking a health crisis will have to happen...which may be sooner than later... samnsara Mar 2018 #11

Please consider your husband, obviously a good guy, and do what is best for him and for you, No Vested Interest Feb 2018 #8