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Aerows

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17. I used the word NO.

Tue Oct 21, 2014, 02:09 AM

Oct 2014

My father's face fell, but I think he got the hint. "I'm taking mother to the grocery store so I do not have time. (I don't have time to lug out a saw, and get roped into a bunch of shit that involves moving heavy objects).

I took mom grocery shopping. I can handle that. I refuse henceforth of hauling shit that weighs 50 ibs. and back breaking labor, because I can't do it anymore.

Oh no, that was a HUGE no for me. I have always stepped up to the plate, but I can't anymore.

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Over a period of years, I had to hire part time and then full time live-in help. NYC_SKP Oct 2014 #1

I've been called every name in the book Aerows Oct 2014 #3

Start with boundaries. Hell Hath No Fury Oct 2014 #2

I'm not capable of a bunch of manual labor Aerows Oct 2014 #4

I completely understand. Hell Hath No Fury Oct 2014 #5

I've done the best I can Aerows Oct 2014 #6

There's a tendency for us to feel guilty, after years of wanting to be a good child, NYC_SKP Oct 2014 #7

I've always stepped up Aerows Oct 2014 #8

Getting screamed at and told Aerows Oct 2014 #9

Going it alone is triple hard. Thankfully, I have a local God sister. NYC_SKP Oct 2014 #11

I'm having a rough time Aerows Oct 2014 #12

I'm okay with going up on ladders Aerows Oct 2014 #10

How is it going, Aerows? Habibi Oct 2014 #13

Better, I guess Aerows Oct 2014 #14

Well, as someone on the other thread pointed out, Habibi Oct 2014 #15

I used the word NO. Aerows Oct 2014 #17

I effectively used the word "NO" Aerows Oct 2014 #16