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PoindexterOglethorpe

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35. Meh. Gossip is gossip.
Sun Apr 27, 2025, 10:51 PM
Apr 27

Just ignore it. Unless the gossip is about things you really need to be thinking about, or changing, or simply isn't true at all, in which case, just ignore. I think I said that already.

Meanwhile, it does not seem as though people here gossip about others in any but the tiniest amounts. And even then, it's more on the order of: "The reason John isn't at dinner tonight is because he's out with his son and grandsons." Or, "Did you know Naureen got out of the hospital yesterday?" It's simply not on the level of noticing or commenting on anything remotely personal to anyone. It's not.

So fear of gossip isn't a remotely reasonable thing to keep you from independent/assisted living.

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I'm 76, currently in a senior facility for about six months. It has both independent and assisted living. PoindexterOglethorpe Apr 2025 #3
yeah. my mil mopinko Apr 2025 #17
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Every situation is different IbogaProject Apr 27 #30
in Madison, lots of places. Tetrachloride Apr 2025 #4
i wouldnt leave chicago, i dont think. mopinko Apr 2025 #6
You shouldn't have to move very far PoindexterOglethorpe Apr 2025 #21
yeah, there r a couple good 1s that i know of already. mopinko Apr 27 #32
Ohh, I doubt that will be a problem. PoindexterOglethorpe Apr 27 #34
I've made a deposit on a "continuing care community"-- viva la Apr 2025 #8
i have a couple other properties, so mopinko Apr 2025 #14
That sounds like a great group to join! viva la Apr 2025 #18
yeah. the lady that lives there mopinko Apr 27 #33
I live alone in a 'small' house, near daughter, son in law, elleng Apr 2025 #11
This sounds like a good situation. No Vested Interest Apr 2025 #13
your daughter and fam mopinko Apr 2025 #16
They're VERY good eggs! elleng Apr 2025 #19
We live in Senior Apartments KarenS Apr 27 #22
it's the gossip i worry about. mopinko Apr 27 #25
Meh. Gossip is gossip. PoindexterOglethorpe Apr 27 #35
well, me irl mopinko Apr 27 #36
My experience in this senior housing is not remotely like PoindexterOglethorpe Apr 27 #37
well, that's comforting. mopinko Apr 28 #38
i plan to spend as much of the inheritance as possible. mopinko Apr 27 #26
Go ahead and spend the children's inheritence! PoindexterOglethorpe Apr 27 #28
If you are starting to feel you should IbogaProject Apr 27 #24
well, i feel less that way now that i am feeling better. mopinko Apr 27 #27
we live in Sun City, AZ mike_c Apr 27 #29
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