Nobody can restrict your communication. I just finally got my dad into an access restricted but semi-independent home (memory-safe) and he’s got a brand new huge TV, complete WiFi and balcony with the freedom to walk to the farmers market two blocks away and several upscale restaurants and vendors across the street. He and I talk dozens of times a day when I’m not there. There’s a community room that he can chat with the few other residents and have coffee and a bagel while going out on the gardened roof to attempt pickleball. I cook most of his food but he is free to cook for himself. It’s just an apartment with all the amenities you’d expect. Nobody will ever restrict you from having a phone or anything else, and nobody can stop you from either calling family or going home. You’re a grown-ass adult.
Edit to add: I understand, after helping my dad through a similar transition, how much anxiety it can inspire. The assumption that you’re no longer going to be self-sufficient, which you’ve been all your life, I’ve seen first-hand and it doesn’t need to be terrifying.
Dad is extremely happy in his new home. He’s independent, has freedom, he’s free to come and go (sometimes with supervision - me), cooks and eats what he wants for himself, has friends, watches baseball all day (that’s our sport), socializes with fellow residents and talks on the phone with his extended family every day. Nobody will ever take that away from you. It only costs my trust $7200/month, but that’s why I built a trust.
Im usually the one to drive him to dialysis at 05:00, but my sister picks him up at 10:30 most days, then he’ll sleep after a bit to eat and I’ll send him a text about the days game and he’ll reply. We just went to an MiLB game last week and he was SO happy!
It’s just an apartment. Do what you like, and good luck! Best to you.
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