I have an enmeshed personality with my father.

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18. Thank you very much for the kind post Maraya!!...

It means a lot. Yes I do have a largely happy relationship with my parents it seems. But I too have frustrations and anger issues that arise due to the enmeshment. In my case I let myself BE controlled much more than they want to do the controlling. My mother or father will offer all kinds of suggestions on how something should or shouldn't be done, or they will bring up a list of worries and dangers in something I am doing. And instead of standing up for myself and saying NO, I'm doing this my way because that's what I want, that's what I need, instead I just cave to their whims, and yes it angers me. But otherwise like you said our relationship is luckily quite loving and I often enjoy the time. In some ways though this makes it even harder to break the ties, if it was purely a toxic relationship it might offer more of an incentive.