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3. if you do therapy with your parents make sure the therapist has good record with family therapy

Fri Aug 16, 2013, 04:03 AM

Aug 2013

it can get really out of hand because in my experience sides get taken and if the therapy isn't played out ( someone doesn't want to get thru it and quits ) things can get screwed up.

I'm sure you have gone thru your options of how to get away and they seem like they don't exist..
It will be real good when it happens and it will happen. Our circumstantial depressions are a paradox
but there is hope . Maybe you and your dad could see your therapist and talk about boundaries with out your mom .....you could ask your shrink ,boundaries suck but sometimes they have to be there . My mother had no boundaries with me and that will last a lifetime so maybe it's time to set some up with your dad even though it may be very difficult and weirdly uncomfortable it may be worth a shot because who the hell can afford to strike it out now alone without a gazillion dollars ?

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I have an enmeshed personality with my father. [View all] Locut0s Aug 2013 OP

isn't that common to certain extents ? olddots Aug 2013 #1

I think you mean just being close to your parents... Locut0s Aug 2013 #2

if you do therapy with your parents make sure the therapist has good record with family therapy olddots Aug 2013 #3

Thanks dots... Locut0s Aug 2013 #7

olddots mentioned boundaries Tobin S. Aug 2013 #4

Thanks Tobin... Locut0s Aug 2013 #6

Another explanation... Locut0s Aug 2013 #5

I understand that perfectly Tobin S. Aug 2013 #8

you and your parents need some seperation olddots Aug 2013 #9

Thanks dots!... Locut0s Aug 2013 #11

Kahlil Gibran's "On Children" No Vested Interest Aug 2013 #10

Thank you NVI... Locut0s Aug 2013 #12

Glad to know your trip went well. No Vested Interest Aug 2013 #13

my advice is do not use your own therapist. mopinko Aug 2013 #14

Sorry I'm not clear on the difference... Locut0s Aug 2013 #15

if you do therapy with your family, use a different therapist. mopinko Aug 2013 #16

Ahh I see, yes thanks that's a good idea. Locut0s Sep 2013 #19

I identify with your post somewhat but I used to be very resentful of both my parents for being so Maraya1969 Sep 2013 #17

Thank you very much for the kind post Maraya!!... Locut0s Sep 2013 #18