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BonnieJW

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50. Best thing those kids

Wed Jul 16, 2025, 09:44 PM

Jul 2025

Could have done for you. Too bad they didn't do it thousands of dollars ago.
There is a waterproof bag in my closet that holds all the documents for my youngest daughter, who is my executrix. There is also a letter to my three daughters advising them about money and their kids. I told them to always give support to a child trying their best to make their way through life. I also warned them against giving a kid money who was on a downward path and who wouldn't listen to reason. Those people have to hit bottom before they will listen to anyone. Never fund stupid.

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UPDATE! -- Need some emotional backup... I think I just cut my youngest son loose for good... (long, sorry) [View all] FirstLight Jul 2025 OP

stay strong WhiteTara Jul 2025 #1

You can only do so much Raven123 Jul 2025 #2

IMO whether one is religious or not, we must selfishly love ourselves before we can love anyone else. By in2herbs Jul 2025 #3

Very wise words, in2herbs. So many people need to hear them. Thank you for posting. wordstroken Jul 2025 #7

And in the words of the immortal RuPaul..... ShazzieB Jul 2025 #48

FirstLight what you're going through, is one dlilafae Jul 2025 #4

Thank you for putting it so succinctly, dlilafae. Most people who are ... wordstroken Jul 2025 #11

I agree, it is time to take care of you, FirstLight. sheshe2 Jul 2025 #5

We love you, FirstLight, and we support you all the way. wordstroken Jul 2025 #6

Hugs, FirstLight Bayard Jul 2025 #8

My middle kid did same after my husband died cpamomfromtexas Jul 2025 #9

Keep firm adam_vermont Jul 2025 #10

A parent can only do so much roscoeroscoe Jul 2025 #12

Question: single mom carrying the load. .our son? Am I guessing niyad Jul 2025 #51

You have gone extra miles. (Plus bonus phone fact.) TommyT139 Jul 2025 #13

It's not your fault cynical_idealist Jul 2025 #14

Right here with you.. mountain grammy Jul 2025 #15

same mg- et tu Jul 2025 #19

He needs to grow up IbogaProject Jul 2025 #16

My solution to any problem was to go to work the next day wolfie001 Jul 2025 #44

Hang in there !!!!! Karadeniz Jul 2025 #17

There comes a time homegirl Jul 2025 #18

I know its tough sdfernando Jul 2025 #20

This is what really stuck out to me, to which I say, Bravo! Sogo Jul 2025 #21

I amdeeply sorry you are going through this irisblue Jul 2025 #22

Sometimes you have to cut people loose so they can save themselves Warpy Jul 2025 #23

It's heartbreaking beyond measure when an adult child has issues beyond your control dlk Jul 2025 #24

I have (or had) a brother to whom I have not spoken in more than two decades. NNadir Jul 2025 #25

I'm the same way with a sister who cut us off Ritabert Jul 2025 #29

I've cut off all my siblings because they're all hardcore tRUMPers wolfie001 Jul 2025 #45

I agree but I'm too old to deal with Trumpers. Ritabert Jul 2025 #57

Enjoy these years! I retired in early Dec. 2023 and have never felt better! wolfie001 Jul 2025 #59

Is your son addicted to anything, Naranon Family really saved our lives. lark Jul 2025 #26

Thanks for all the support DU Family! Many wise words and hugs ..thank you FirstLight Jul 2025 #27

Unfortunately, I can totally relate. My soon-to-be 58 year old son has BPD. judesedit Jul 2025 #28

yes, the two are so different! FirstLight Jul 2025 #30

That's all you can do. It is heartbreaking, but there is lots of goodness in this world. judesedit Jul 2025 #42

I get it. Ms. Toad Jul 2025 #31

"ingratitude, thou marble-hearted fiend" Paul-EM Jul 2025 #32

You did all you could Mama Bird BaronChocula Jul 2025 #33

My heart is with you Freddie Jul 2025 #34

It sounds like he needs to hit bottom and take responsibility MadameButterfly Jul 2025 #35

It sounds like you are taking steps to help yourself, and Hassler Jul 2025 #36

My kids cut me off years ago, for the same thing. Linda ladeewolf Jul 2025 #37

I pray that things get better for you and your family mdmc Jul 2025 #38

Amazing stories of family disfunction Playingmantis Jul 2025 #39

It is hard when that happens and I'm very sorry for it. PatrickforB Jul 2025 #40

You go to therapy csusan Jul 2025 #41

that poor child Skittles Jul 2025 #43

It's hard to finally admit the relationship is too toxic to continue. Trueblue Texan Jul 2025 #46

u come first. AllaN01Bear Jul 2025 #47

Oh, dear friend. Holding you in love and light, wishing you all the blessings niyad Jul 2025 #49

Best thing those kids BonnieJW Jul 2025 #50

Sending hugs and support, FirstLight. HeartsCanHope Jul 2025 #52

Oh FirstLight, I know your heart is aching. summer_in_TX Jul 2025 #53

I am so sorry for what you are going through Jarqui Jul 2025 #54

Here are some hugs for you. OldBaldy1701E Jul 2025 #55

I am forever thankful I have close family, immediate and relations. Fla Dem Jul 2025 #56

It's good to vent. I'm sure you're hurt. live love laugh Jul 2025 #58

Keep on keeping on First light.... democratsruletheday Jul 2025 #60

Kick for the update FirstLight Jul 2025 #61

Stay strong crosinski Jul 2025 #62

Yeah thanks! FirstLight Jul 2025 #63