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Mental Health Support

LakeArenal

(29,616 posts)

3. Gawd. It sounds like Thanksgiving with my mom.

Reply to debm55 (Original post)

Fri Nov 25, 2022, 12:14 PM

Nov 2022

Alzheimer’s. Symptoms my whole life. Every clerk was ripping her off and this fake judgmental whisper that the whole room could hear. She was a fatist, racists and just about every “ist”. The day she was passing away my father made me visit her. My dad asked her if she’d like to see me she shook her head no.

For years I had guilt that I missed my mother in law more than my own mom.

I have no advice other than, you can’t change her, you can only change your reaction. Be strong for your son I gave up a son for adoption. It was t because I didn’t want him. I feel for you in many ways.

Good luck. Best wishes for the holiday.

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My Thanksgiving. [View all] debm55 Nov 2022 OP

Hoo boy. That's a tough situation, but the fact that someone is a family member Ocelot II Nov 2022 #1

Ocelot,this has been going on since I was a child. Yesterday, I let it go on, though I did try to debm55 Nov 2022 #5

My mother said a lot of the same things to me Diamond_Dog Nov 2022 #13

Thank you Diamond. I know that is the case here. She always likes to get her claws in about my debm55 Nov 2022 #17

Just awful. Diamond_Dog Nov 2022 #21

I get it! no_hypocrisy Nov 2022 #2

nohypocracy , thank you for your hugs. debm55 Nov 2022 #18

Gawd. It sounds like Thanksgiving with my mom. LakeArenal Nov 2022 #3

Lake, thank you for listening. I can't talk to my husband about this as he would be very angry. debm55 Nov 2022 #6

just ((Hugs)) KarenS Nov 2022 #4

Karen the whole family is like this. Now that they are older, they are worse. All of debm55 Nov 2022 #7

I'm so sorry XanaDUer2 Nov 2022 #8

Deb, have you considered muting her on your cell & maybe checking every other day for messages? irisblue Nov 2022 #9

Excellent list, to which I add "Scapegoat Complex" & "The Inner World of Trauma" SheltieLover Nov 2022 #11

Thank you, Iris, for the list of books. With all that has happened(read my intro below, when I first debm55 Nov 2022 #20

If these are cell phone calls and you recognize the numbers, can you just... 3catwoman3 Nov 2022 #10

3cat, what if it is call that says someone died? debm55 Nov 2022 #22

Will anyone leave a voicemail that you could check on a few minutes later? 3catwoman3 Nov 2022 #26

Why pick up or listen to her at all? SheltieLover Nov 2022 #12

sheltie, they are old and I am afraid of getting the call where my father has died. debm55 Nov 2022 #15

Well, that's certainly your choice. SheltieLover Nov 2022 #25

Once my mother called my house 22 times in a row. Diamond_Dog Nov 2022 #14

But Diamond, what if she had a medical proplem? That's what keeps me answering. debm55 Nov 2022 #16

I totally understand deb Diamond_Dog Nov 2022 #19

No Diamond, I am the oldest, I guess they want my help-monetarily and presence. debm55 Nov 2022 #23

My dear friend, again I suggest muting her then checking the voice mail/text in an hour irisblue Nov 2022 #24

iris, I will try. Thank you.I see a shrink and counselor. I try to hide stuff from husband and son. debm55 Nov 2022 #27

Your partner and child know your egg donor is fucking you over and hurting you irisblue Nov 2022 #28

Hey debm, checking in on you today, Wednesday 30 November, how are you & yours today? irisblue Nov 2022 #29