The biggest help for me was having a sponsor who I could call on if I needed to. She was able to help put things in perspective for me and stop the destructive cycle. She also belonged to more than one group, including OA - Overeaters Anonymous - which I attended with her and on my own. Her issue was overeating, mine was just the opposite, when I drank, I didn't eat and put myself in jeopardy. And the principles are the same and the support and being able to talk to others with similar issues made a big difference for me. I had thought it was just me.
And I punished myself as well, once I learned that's what I was doing, it helped to break the cycle. In AA we say that we "drink poison, hoping someone else will die." I'm not doing that anymore, but it took me awhile and having support and discovering that I wasn't alone sure helped. You've come to the right place. 
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