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southernyankeebelle

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4. Most feminists I know want to be in the workforce. You need to sit her down and show her

Reply to Old and In the Way (Original post)

Fri Feb 24, 2012, 10:58 PM

Feb 2012

what money is coming in and show her the bills and what money is going out. Even if she went back part-time it would be of help. She could do that. Do you help her around the house equally? If not you should be. Do you help with the children? If not you should be. But she needs to go back to work. Or tell her you'll have to cut back on the extras you get. Tell her no going to get her hair or nails done. Cut off the cable and get rid of the cellphone for her since she is home and doesn't need it. Tell her no going out spending money on dinners, or movies. Hope that helps. It would have worked on me. But then again I would see my husband in such stress and I would be looking fast for a job to help even if it is part time. Good luck.

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Should a feminist wife be an equal contributor to the household finances? [View all] Old and In the Way Feb 2012 OP

Have you talked with her about it? DURHAM D Feb 2012 #1

Yes. ForgoTheConsequence Feb 2012 #2

Yes. elleng Feb 2012 #3

She claims to be a feminist and she's run for state -wide office. Old and In the Way Feb 2012 #10

Well. ForgoTheConsequence Feb 2012 #11

And let's not forget -- all that UNPAID work IS a financial contribution too Remember Me Feb 2012 #21

Most feminists I know want to be in the workforce. You need to sit her down and show her southernyankeebelle Feb 2012 #4

We've been married 30 years Old and In the Way Feb 2012 #9

Don't mean to be sarcastic, but sort of do: elleng Feb 2012 #17

Actually, I'm not. Old and In the Way Feb 2012 #35

YOU ARE. I am a wife. I worked for the whole time my husband was in the military and southernyankeebelle Feb 2012 #18

I'll be the contrarian here. cloudbase Feb 2012 #5

Nothing contrarian about it, cloud. elleng Feb 2012 #7

I'll be a contrarion and say, other tha giving birth, I was totally involved. Old and In the Way Feb 2012 #15

Uh, unless you didn't go out of the house to make that income Remember Me Feb 2012 #25

I've working out of the house for 15 years, Old and In the Way Feb 2012 #30

Hasn't 'worked,' or hasn't 'worked outside the home?' elleng Feb 2012 #6

As well as ways you can take some of the household responsibilities to free up her time. nt FLyellowdog Feb 2012 #12

Here's the problem in a nutshell. Old and In the Way Feb 2012 #13

Serious problems, can be worked out. elleng Feb 2012 #16

Thanks for the advice, but I doubt either of us will get counseling. Old and In the Way Feb 2012 #28

Happy to hear that you love a lot, elleng Feb 2012 #33

They do...kids are fine. Sadly, this went done on our son's 23rd birthday today. Old and In the Way Feb 2012 #36

First, here is a link that may help: REP Feb 2012 #20

And NONE of it should be brought here for discussion Remember Me Feb 2012 #27

You're probably right...you should have addressed it to me directly, though. Old and In the Way Feb 2012 #32

By the time I got to that point I thought I'd said enough, Remember Me Feb 2012 #37

What is the dynamic of those 20 years? Ruby the Liberal Feb 2012 #8

2 people can't handle finances. Old and In the Way Feb 2012 #14

Are you suggesting that keeping the household running smoothly kestrel91316 Feb 2012 #19

Not in our case. Old and In the Way Feb 2012 #24

ouch. Whisp Feb 2012 #26

I'm sorry you're fighting with your wife about money. ZombieHorde Feb 2012 #22

Just so everyone knows....I doubt our situation is differnet from millions of Americans. Old and In the Way Feb 2012 #23

A wife and husband, assuming they are equally able-bodied, should be equal contributors to the life iris27 Feb 2012 #29

Addressing only your OP, of course there will be unequal financial and other contributions. In uppityperson Feb 2012 #31

Kind of why I posted here, uppityperson. Old and In the Way Feb 2012 #34

People, please stop responding. This is NOT the proper place to play Remember Me Feb 2012 #38