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erronis

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17. I'm so glad you and your babies survived these!

Sat Mar 14, 2026, 11:55 AM

18 hrs ago

The reality of your situation each time seems to have made the C-section the correct decision.

Wow, and congratulations.

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They Didn't Want to Have C-Sections. A Judge Would Decide How They Gave Birth. [View all] WhiskeyGrinder 20 hrs ago OP

a 3 hr hearing when she is in ACTIVE LABOR??!!!! mopinko 20 hrs ago #1

Wow. That is appalling. The child is more important than the woman, no matter what. Biophilic 20 hrs ago #2

Extreme situation. But perhaps it was the safest option for woman and child. paleotn 20 hrs ago #4

What's extreme about this situation is forcing someone who's in active labor into a court hearing to establish legally WhiskeyGrinder 19 hrs ago #5

What about dying makes it unacceptable? paleotn 19 hrs ago #6

People make medical decisions that result in their own deaths all the time. WhiskeyGrinder 19 hrs ago #7

And that's perfectly fine with me. paleotn 13 hrs ago #37

You're reccing your own posts? Crunchy Frog 2 hrs ago #67

Exhibit A: all those Jehovah's Witnesses who refuse blood transfusions for themselves OR their children. ShazzieB 13 hrs ago #39

The pregnant woman's profession was assisting women to deliver safely....got it? Hope22 19 hrs ago #9

Exactly what part of viable, at term, and in fetal distress do you not fucking understand? paleotn 13 hrs ago #38

Your last sentence... GenThePerservering 12 hrs ago #42

Tell that to the person who I responded to, not me. paleotn 12 hrs ago #43

The hearing was three hours long. Quiet Em 11 hrs ago #46

She was in labor for 12 freaking hours!!!!!! paleotn 10 hrs ago #47

and? Quiet Em 10 hrs ago #48

And? An obstetrics team is going to go to all that trouble unless it's for a good reason? paleotn 9 hrs ago #57

No, I'm not an OB-GYN and neither are you. Quiet Em 7 hrs ago #59

My son was born after 30 hrs. of labor. Whats your point? Lochloosa 10 hrs ago #50

Medical professionals didn't go to this extreme unless there was good reason. paleotn 9 hrs ago #56

12 hours of labor is NOT. VERY. LONG. Crunchy Frog 2 hrs ago #68

The woman stated she had already had a life threatening complication from a C Section. Hope22 7 hrs ago #61

Yes, I'm willing to sacrifice the lives of some full term fetuses to protect women's rights to bodily autonomy. Crunchy Frog 3 hrs ago #66

It was the woman's profession, but in her own case she was not making the safest decision karynnj 11 hrs ago #44

3 prior c-sections Freddie 9 hrs ago #53

Completely agree karynnj 9 hrs ago #54

My first was a C-section buzzycrumbhunger 9 hrs ago #58

If ONLY the decision was based on the health and welfare of the mother... the existing slightlv 11 hrs ago #45

The patient in question is a doula. usedtobedemgurl 10 hrs ago #49

Because she's a doula doesn't mean she is a good doula. ToxMarz 10 hrs ago #51

Sure. Of course a judge knows better. Ok. usedtobedemgurl 5 hrs ago #62

I worked in that field. When you're in the hospital, you don't have a choice. LeftInTX 18 hrs ago #20

It's not as rare as people think, and it doesn't matter if someone thinks it's "safest". Crunchy Frog 3 hrs ago #65

only the fetus stage Kali 19 hrs ago #8

Yup, the kid is on his or her own. Biophilic 18 hrs ago #19

It seems to me... GiqueCee 15 hrs ago #34

... Solly Mack 20 hrs ago #3

Whose body is it? dlk 19 hrs ago #10

In states like Florida, the state has control over a woman's body erronis 19 hrs ago #11

It's not just Florida. In almost 30 states, hospitals can override the advance directives of pregnant people. WhiskeyGrinder 19 hrs ago #14

Darwin's body. paleotn 13 hrs ago #36

Jeezus. If men gave birth, this would not be a thing. Joinfortmill 19 hrs ago #12

Eh, men do give birth and it still is a thing, but likely because of the discrimination trans men face. WhiskeyGrinder 19 hrs ago #13

I've had four c-sections Mossfern 18 hrs ago #15

I'm so glad you and your babies survived these! erronis 18 hrs ago #17

Thank you for this thoughtful post. LisaM 18 hrs ago #21

I think the trauma Mossfern 18 hrs ago #24

I was a nurse in newborn. LeftInTX 18 hrs ago #23

I was surprised to learn episiotomies aren't recommended anymore Sympthsical 15 hrs ago #33

I had three kids: LeftInTX 14 hrs ago #35

Interesting. Thank you for sharing! Sympthsical 9 hrs ago #55

Beyond appalling. Mother first, unless both can be saved & the mother's wishes unclear (& she is hlthe2b 18 hrs ago #16

I was going to share this. Thank you so much for doing it! ... littlemissmartypants 18 hrs ago #18

Hands off women's wombs. perverts! GreenWave 18 hrs ago #22

Women of reproductive age need to get the hell out of Florida. This is absurd. Quiet Em 17 hrs ago #25

I see no reason for a judge to be called into this. Ilsa 17 hrs ago #26

If it's an emergency C-Sect, fetal distress, certain maternal conditions, unknown fetal conditions etc. LeftInTX 16 hrs ago #28

Oh, I know, I've been there. I was relieved when Ilsa 16 hrs ago #29

This message was self-deleted by its author MorbidButterflyTat 15 hrs ago #31

That sounds terrifying MorbidButterflyTat 15 hrs ago #32

I lived in a county that for a time had the highest Ilsa 16 hrs ago #27

Wondering... MorbidButterflyTat 15 hrs ago #30

I read the ProPublica article cksmithy 13 hrs ago #40

Glad I posted this thread. It's good to get a reminder about just how easily so many people are willing to sign away WhiskeyGrinder 12 hrs ago #41

3 prior c-sections are a HUGE risk. But, AllyCat 10 hrs ago #52

This story really bothered me so I did some more research Quiet Em 7 hrs ago #60

This is like Rosemary's baby! C Moon 3 hrs ago #63

This is absolutely disgusting. Under no circumstances should women ever be robbed of the right to Crunchy Frog 3 hrs ago #64

Interesting to see how much anti-choice sentiment there really is here on DU. Article and the responses Crunchy Frog 2 hrs ago #69