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In reply to the discussion: Here's the thing...this stuff is stressful. [View all]Bernardo de La Paz
(58,722 posts)Do that by: Doing what you can and not stressing on the rest.
Anger and hate are toxic to you but the target feels nothing.
Action and speaking out free you from emotions and the target is affected.
If news makes you angry, severely limit your exposure to news until you learn how to receive it without anger. An angry warrior makes mistakes and becomes a dead warrior or ineffective or negatively effective. Cold focused determination is highly effective and healthier. Healthy warriors accomplish more.
Worry is good in very limited way. It helps you figure out things you can do. But beyond that, spinning the hamster wheel of worry is debilitating and not helpful. Once you've figured out actions and set them in motion, let go of the worry. If you find yourself worrying, ask yourself if it is about new info that is not fully digested, or if there is a new angle you thought of. If neither of those apply, let go and sweep the worry out of your mind. Metaphorically open a door in your mind and let a breeze blow out the worry.
How do you get good at not worrying, not raging, not fearing, not hating? By not indulging it. As many times as necessary.
Make the healthy decision to let the toxic emotions go. If it comes back seconds later, don't get angry at it or your self. Just let it go again. Action is distracting in the most positive way. Even protesting is action. If posting on DU helps, then post, but please work on reducing the doom, anger and hate in posts for the sake of DU members and yourself. "Accentuate the positive" is not trite, it is wisdom.
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